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NavyDM
08-22-2007, 17:54
I just wanted to know if I'm the only guy here thats dumped a girlfriend because she screwed up dives?

I had a girlfriend that I had to rescue on one dive and she just decieded to head back to shore on another dive with out telling me or the other two divers we were with. We looked for her for 10 minutes before we saw her come up on shore. Oh and she also lost my dive knife and a mask. She didn't have any gear so I was always borrowing it from friends so she could go with us and then something would happen to it. Has this happened any of you? Any suggestions other then don't dive with someone I'm dating?

scubasavvy
08-22-2007, 17:57
Never happened to me, but I would have dumped her too...not to be harsh or anything, lol. That stuff is expensive...

mike_s
08-22-2007, 18:06
I'm going to need toknow if she owns her own boat and see pictures of the boat before I can answer the poll. :smilie39:

finflippers
08-22-2007, 18:15
I would love it if I could get my wife to dive even if that meant that I had to take a lot of extra time getting her to be where she was comfortable with diving.

mm_dm
08-22-2007, 18:15
Did she hate diving? Might as well get that out the way early on.

jeraldjcook
08-22-2007, 18:17
I'm going to need toknow if she owns her own boat and see pictures of the boat before I can answer the poll. :smilie39:

Having a boat and good looks is just icing on the cake. I say if she dives at all, she's a keeper. My wife not only doesn't dive, she hates diving. Our vacations are fun, let me tell ya. I could always be worse.

finflippers
08-22-2007, 18:21
I'm going to need toknow if she owns her own boat and see pictures of the boat before I can answer the poll. :smilie39:

Having a boat and good looks is just icing on the cake. I say if she dives at all, she's a keeper. My wife not only doesn't dive, she hates diving. Our vacations are fun, let me tell ya. I could always be worse.

My wife is afraid of the water. She often calls herself a diving widow because I love diving so much.

NavyDM
08-22-2007, 19:49
No boat I don't think she likes to dive oh and she almost killed us when I had to save her. We ened up getting back to shore over about 100ft of coral as the waves pulled both of us acrossed it. I guess I don't have to worry about the married part yet. I'm hoping to settle down with some one that likes to dive as much as I do.

quarrydiver
08-22-2007, 19:59
had similar experiences but I married her. she makes life more entertaining!

ertechsg
08-22-2007, 20:41
i can't keep my wife out of the water. Down fall is 2x the gear

mike_s
08-22-2007, 20:52
No boat I don't think she likes to dive oh and she almost killed us when I had to save her. We ened up getting back to shore over about 100ft of coral as the waves pulled both of us acrossed it. I guess I don't have to worry about the married part yet. I'm hoping to settle down with some one that likes to dive as much as I do.



Make sure your scuba gear is covered in the pre-nup agreement! :smilie39:

dallasdivergirl
08-22-2007, 20:57
I dumped a guy because he didn't dive.

I only date divers.

does that count?

Splitlip
08-22-2007, 21:09
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!!

Worlds colliding man. Come on!

You invite em to play poker too?

eyezz
08-22-2007, 21:09
Wow Iam not the only one. My wife likes to snorkel just so see if it safe to swim, Iam LOL as I write this. We went on are honeymoon in ST. Kits and we went snorkling and she saw a stingray about 18ft down and she hit the shore dry that how fast she got out of the water. You guy are great keep it coming.:smilie39:

Isaac

Splitlip
08-22-2007, 21:10
I dumped a guy because he didn't dive.

I only date divers.

does that count?

Ah...
No.

Men's forum.:smiley36:

deepdiver47
08-23-2007, 07:18
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!! Worlds colliding man. Come on!
You invite em to play poker too?


Splitlip, you hit the nail on the head. The whole idea behind diving is like "The Great Escape". Which is "How can I sneak out of camp without the Nazis finding me and then putting me in solitary confinement". (aka honey do list). :smiley20:

Krakenn
08-23-2007, 07:51
Hmmmm hard question, I mean does she have good lungs?
Could she for instance draw a ping pong ball through a garden hose?

If so she would obviously be a great freediver and wouldn't need to Scuba dive.

I would need to consider a number of factors before i did what you did. Mind you I would be really upset if she lost my knife and my mask. But then I would go back to my original question.

Kraks

frankc420
08-23-2007, 07:58
Start doing boat dives and she won't have an escape route. Problem solved.

Charlotte Smith
08-23-2007, 08:09
At least she kept trying even after you had to save her...or did she not realize the seriousness of what had just occurred?

Griff
08-23-2007, 08:49
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!!

Worlds colliding man. Come on!

You invite em to play poker too?


+100 :smiley20:


I certainly don't only date divers. It's too hard to find someone really compatible overall. Adding a "must be a diver' clause would make it impossible around here.

That said, in the case of the original poster, I'd absolutely dump her too. I'd rather be with a non-diver than a diver who screws everyting up.

JahJahwarrior
08-23-2007, 08:57
I figure any girl I rescue from anything, Im going to try to date, becuase I can always say "remember that one time?" and she'll stop nagging me or whatever. :)


I wouldn't dump a girl because she doesn't dive, but I would dump a girl whom I believe is immature, any girl who wouldn't be safe to dive, I wouldn't date. And if a girlfriend dived worse than me, I'd offer to pay for private time with an instructor or something, somehow......(if she was cute) (the girlfriend, not the instructor.) (instructor better be ugly, so she doesn't start dating him.)

jeraldjcook
08-23-2007, 08:58
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!!

Worlds colliding man. Come on!

You invite em to play poker too?

Of course not. The wife canceled poker night. :smilie39:

greyzen
08-23-2007, 08:59
I tried to date a hot diver chick...

My wife was freakin mad for a week :/

torrey
08-23-2007, 10:12
My wife is afraid of the water. She often calls herself a diving widow because I love diving so much.

My wife is along those same lines. She equates eels to snakes and she hates snakes. And of course, all sharks are just looking for a human to eat. Heck, she freaks even about small lizards. She has absolutely no interest in diving. I'll work on changing her mind about sea creatures, but I don't want to even bother trying to get her into diving, because I just know with her mindset, she will freak out at some point and hurt or kill herself. She's happy enough on the beach tanning with a beer.

94GTStang
08-23-2007, 11:32
Nope, my fiance loves to dive.

Though in your case, I hope you can return that gear or save it for someone else!

reservecops
08-23-2007, 11:46
Having a boat and good looks is just icing on the cake. I say if she dives at all, she's a keeper.Nah ... I'd rather have a hottie in a two-piece bikini waiting on shore with a fresh cocktail versus a huge, ugly woman in a wetsuit ...

I didn't marry my wife to dive, and I don't sleep with my diving buddies ... :smilie39:

DarkCoffee
08-23-2007, 12:37
i can't keep my wife out of the water. Down fall is 2x the gear

I hear you! Same boat! Now the son is diving! (That sound you heard was my wallet groaning! ) Wonder if Larry &Co offer family discounts? :smiley2:

ertechsg
08-23-2007, 15:58
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!!

Worlds colliding man. Come on!

You invite em to play poker too?NUTS? Thats the only quite time I have:smiley36:

quarrydiver
08-23-2007, 21:02
it does suck to have to split the gear money.

scubasdaniel
08-23-2007, 22:26
If she is a great girl why not but in the effort to help her improve her dive skills. All I know is my girl friend is now an excellent diver.

3rdEye
08-24-2007, 15:25
good of a reason to dump someone as anything else i guess

divnhank
08-24-2007, 16:00
What does the girlfriend look like in a wetsuit?

divnhank
08-24-2007, 16:03
your the one with "divingwidow" posting, yes?

I've been in a dive club for years, made lots of friends, and the group helped me get my wife diving. It's the greatest thing. I've had more dives in the last year than the previous ten!

divnhank
08-24-2007, 16:05
i can't keep my wife out of the water. Down fall is 2x the gear
I don't have anything that matches. With my wife, it's all about fashion.

Vercingetorix
08-24-2007, 16:08
What does the girlfriend look like in a wetsuit?
What's it worth to you that I NOT to mention to Judy that you raised this question?:smiley2:


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awmurray
08-24-2007, 16:09
What does the girlfriend look like in a wetsuit?

More importantly, what does she look like outside of a wetsuit.

Lucky for me, I don't have this problem ;).

Vercingetorix
08-24-2007, 16:09
your the one with "divingwidow" posting, yes?

I've been in a dive club for years, made lots of friends, and the group helped me get my wife diving. It's the greatest thing. I've had more dives in the last year than the previous ten!I'm hoping this same dive club, ScubaDillos, can get my spousal unit interested and past her fears.

divnhank
08-24-2007, 16:20
We've been married 31 years. She knows me too well, and I would have said that in front of her. She tells me "if you think you can get it, go for it"!

chewyjr15
08-24-2007, 16:21
good choice man

divnhank
08-24-2007, 16:25
your the one with "divingwidow" posting, yes?

I've been in a dive club for years, made lots of friends, and the group helped me get my wife diving. It's the greatest thing. I've had more dives in the last year than the previous ten!I'm hoping this same dive club, ScubaDillos, can get my spousal unit interested and past her fears.
Get her to start coming to the meetings and outings, make some friends. My spouse watched the others go diving and thought "if they could do it, I can do it." I also know the perfect instructor, very calm and patient.

Vercingetorix
08-24-2007, 16:32
We've been married 31 years. She knows me too well, and I would have said that in front of her. She tells me "if you think you can get it, go for it"!Oh hell!!! There goes my chance to fund the the new tank.:smiley36:

My wife says something to effect of: go get it, and I hope you and she are happy together...I get everything else.

bversteegh
08-25-2007, 21:35
My wife also hates the beach/water. Just wish I could figure out how to convince her that after 4 or 5 dives a day on a liveaboard - I'm lucky to stay awake long enough to make it to my cabin - let alone chase women:smiley5:

greyzen
08-25-2007, 21:41
We've been married 31 years. She knows me too well, and I would have said that in front of her. She tells me "if you think you can get it, go for it"!Oh hell!!! There goes my chance to fund the the new tank.:smiley36:

My wife says something to effect of: go get it, and I hope you and she are happy together...I get everything else.

Vercing, your wife is a lot more like mine...

She has a mindset of "If you don't want to be around me, I'll rob you until you want to die."

Course, as she is a chemist... she has threatened to boil me down to unidentifyable chemicals on occasion... she always gets this cute little giggle afterwards so I guess I'm safe....

...right?

Krakenn
08-30-2007, 23:33
No matter what you guys say, i still reckons it comes back to her lung capacity.

Kraks

divinjen
08-31-2007, 11:32
I don't understand women who won't even try diving! I love it! I had a problem at first clearing my mask and that freaked me out -but I got a new mask and problem solved!
I think it was a little harsh to dump her... maybe a little training would have helped. But, after reading all these posts I feel like I can walk with my head a little higher for braving the 'man eating sharks' (lol) and diving! Guys, you should certainly get your better halves *chuckle* to dive! I would love to be on a dive boat and it not be 6 men and me. :D

georoc01
08-31-2007, 12:14
Well, I got my last gf to dive and she dumped me two weeks later after she finished her OW. Now she is headed to Thailand to become an instructor. Talk about feeling used!

yankeefan21
08-31-2007, 13:01
Why would you date someone who doesn't dive in the first place? That's like dating a woman who bans beer from the house!!

Seriously, I am very lucky to have a wife that has similar interests to mine [diving, camping, skiing]. She isn't a great diver, but she is safer/better/more fun than an insta-buddy! Usually she can get up to speed after our first or second dive. She's also way more comfortable with me underwater now so she is more relaxed.

I think this marriage may just work out!

Capt Hook
08-31-2007, 14:39
If she dives hang on to her, a girlfriend who doesn't dive will be more likely to want you to be with her rather than diving.
It's not like it is with boats - a man with a woman may not always get a boat, but a man with a boat can always get a woman!

Hemlon
08-31-2007, 14:49
My significant other didn't dive when we first started dating but that changed shortly afterward.

There's nothing like a trip to Cozumel to make ya' want to get certified!

plot
09-01-2007, 07:50
my ex was a non diver and me always going diving put alot of strain on our relationship... i'm sure it was part of the break up.

danielh03
09-03-2007, 02:03
I just keep reminding my wife that she is just one bottle of air away from making me a million heir!

Cheddarchick
09-03-2007, 07:08
My question is? Are you the one who taught her to dive?????

Bigg_Budd
09-03-2007, 17:48
Depends on how hot she is. If she's an 8-10 (10 being Keira Knightley), you let it go. If she's a 5-7, you give her a verbal warning.

Anything lower than a 5 and you should be ashamed of yourself...

plot
09-03-2007, 17:56
Depends on how hot she is. If she's an 8-10 (10 being Keira Knightley), you let it go. If she's a 5-7, you give her a verbal warning.

Anything lower than a 5 and you should be ashamed of yourself...

:smilie39:


yes, all men are that shallow.

BeachBunnyCrissy
09-04-2007, 21:21
Well, I got my last gf to dive and she dumped me two weeks later after she finished her OW. Now she is headed to Thailand to become an instructor. Talk about feeling used!

Hey Buddy! She was scared of barracuda's, and there arn't any in the Blue Hole! :smiley2:

georoc01
09-04-2007, 23:25
Well, I got my last gf to dive and she dumped me two weeks later after she finished her OW. Now she is headed to Thailand to become an instructor. Talk about feeling used!

Hey Buddy! She was scared of barracuda's, and there arn't any in the Blue Hole! :smiley2:

Is she scared of big old groupers as well?

divingmedic
09-05-2007, 17:44
Well I guess it all depends on how good in bed she was. My wife does not dive, has no desire to dive and I like it that way. I am now getting into a group of friends that has spouses that do not dive and we can take trips together and she has someone to hang with. I let her go to her "hen parties" aka bunko.

meesier42
09-06-2007, 17:22
I would say yes, BUT, if she was hot and generous in bed, well maybe I wouldn't dump her (not right away at least), but I certainly wouldn't dive with her. not without retraining her or perhaps attaching a short leash to her.

tremtech
09-11-2007, 14:01
My wife tries so hard to keep up with the guys that she wont opt out of dives that she knows she can't handle, maybe for fear that people will look down on her.While insisting to photograph a 3 person speros trip she almost open watered her self while fighting her bouyancy issues in 30 fsw and 4-5 knot current 20 foot vis about 22 miles out of Crystal River Fl., I escorted her back to the anchor line after watching her yoyo for 2 minutes struggling to stay low enough to get out of the current she signaled that she needed more weight. I watched as she ascended safely up the anchor line to get more weight ,I lost site of her at about 10 feet, after about five minutes she never returned to the anchor line to decend ,so knowing my other buddies wife was watching on the boat and after seeing lots of dinner options, I ASS Umed she was just going to opt out and wait it out on the boat with her while we shot dinner. Wrong his wife who was designated boat watch and was supposed to be watching fell asleep in the sun with the stereo cranking(moron) and even worse she changed my station to country music. I guess my wife decided that she could out swim the current on the surface from the anchor line to the ladder. OOps she missed the ladder current to strong, OOps she missed the 50' trailing line current to strong, now she starts cramping and after yelling and screaming to my buddies sleeping moron(wife) she drifts 1700 yards due west of the boat in the current. At 500 psi and with 2 Grouper, 4 Hogs ,and 6 Mangrove Snapper between us we proudly ascend the anchor line to find his moron still sound asleep and my wife M.I.A. after about 20 seconds of looking with the bino's I spotted her. We pulled anchor and went to pick her up .She was panicked and pissed (Really Pissed).I take the Blame for the whole incident . I should have (1.) talked her out of making the dive knowing that the current was strong. (2.) made sure she was weighted properly (3.) made sure she was on the boat safely by stopping the dive and all of us ascending and escorting her. (4.) convincing her that no one would look down on her if she see's the dive to be more than she can handle. Since the incident she has opted out of several challenging dives in order to be a competent boat watch and after discussing the incident she has admitted that she was very leary of the strong currents and that she was willing to get more expierience and strength before trying to make that kind of dive again.

jorbar1551
09-13-2007, 12:15
i've never had a girlfriend dive, but if she had all those problems, i would just ask her to not come...or not invite her.

i have a good girl-friend that has her own boat, drysuit and all of the above. too bad shes got a boyfriend

coralcrazed
09-13-2007, 21:03
I married her

coralcrazed
09-13-2007, 21:05
you could teach them you know>>>>

jorbar1551
09-14-2007, 17:32
I dont want to sound shallow, but would you date a diver over a more attractive non diver

ScuberDoober
09-16-2007, 20:51
I don't care what the gear costs, I don't care if we have to do shallow dives, I don't care that trips cost twice as much. Hell she has all the money anyway!!!!!!!!:smilie39:

jo8243
09-18-2007, 09:50
No. You are shallow. <pun intended>

georoc01
09-19-2007, 08:38
I dont want to sound shallow, but would you date a diver over a more attractive non diver

Which one has the boat ? :)

billucusdiver
09-20-2007, 18:25
Well I guess i have kind of a different view on this diving girlfriend/wife thing. I dont want one. Lets be honest here dive gear is expensive and at some time or another you are going to end up buy in hers. Not only that but you will also have to pack that heavy crap around and take care of it for her too. It is just a lot less of a pain to have a couple solid dive buddys. Plus it gives you a good excuse to get away from her for the weekend. Just my .02 worth

BuzzF117
10-16-2007, 17:33
man tough call dumping her if she is really hot. The hotness factor trumps alot of stuff unless of course she is a total bitch...

Scubastud16
10-16-2007, 17:37
I used to dive with my girlfriend all the time. We had been dating for a long time, and she decided to break up with me for some seriously B.S. reasons on Friday. No more buddy for me....

tbuckalew
10-17-2007, 09:53
Introduced my wife to Diving when we were engaged...she now loves it. It can be frustrating at times due to the large gap in our experience levels. However, I just take some extra time before dives, between dives, and after dives and we work on our buddy skills, communications, and discuss what worries her and what she is having problems with. We then focus some skills on the next dive to work on those things. She is much better after the past dozen dives and getting better all the time.

Besides - from the shallow, male, side of me - it is a lot easier to teach them than to sart all over again!

mona
02-04-2008, 14:38
I realize I probably shouldn't be here but always enjoy getting the guys point of view on things.
Anyways, interesting to see everyone's responses. As for dumping the girlfriend...you did what you had to do. I suspect there were other factors that also contributed to the breakup.
As for the diving....might have been a good idea to discuss your concerns in regards to her behaviour/actions and possible consequences. Sounds like maybe she didn't much care for diving. If she'd been a keeper you would have found a way to get her to either improve on her diving and possibly offered to do some more appropriate dives for her level (together without others joining you or with an instructro) or even discussed the option of you diving without her (she could find an activity she likes vs diving).

RoyN
02-04-2008, 14:52
I don't have one so I wouldn't know. :D

Super-Duper Scubasteve
02-04-2008, 15:46
I'd be mad if she was going around losing expensive gear.

thor
02-04-2008, 15:55
I'm not sure if anyone has asked this, but I guess it all depends upon the girl's personality...... Sorry, I can't even say that with a straight face. It really depends upon how hot she is. I might excuse certain supermodels if they lost my knife or mask. You can always get another one.

Goober
02-04-2008, 16:54
Knowing me...

If she is supermodel hot and is an ouch, ouch your on my hair type, she's gone. Infact, here let me help you pack.

Cute and a freak, well...sorry fellas but she is a keeper in my book. Even a no diver or one that trys but lost a couple of things and lacks in basic OW skills.

Cute, freak, diver....here baby, heres my check book. Direct deposit hits Friday at 12:01 am. Oh, baby? What is your social security #? I need to have you placed as my benificiary.:smiley2:

DiveSooner
02-04-2008, 21:25
You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!! Worlds colliding man. Come on!
You invite em to play poker too?

I hate to say it... but I hate diving with my wife.... :smiley13: get nagged on land and underwater....


Splitlip, you hit the nail on the head. The whole idea behind diving is like "The Great Escape". Which is "How can I sneak out of camp without the Nazis finding me and then putting me in solitary confinement". (aka honey do list). :smiley20:


I dumped a guy because he didn't dive.

I only date divers.


DDG, would your train the right one?

does that count?



You guys who want to dive with wives and girl friends are nuts!!!

Worlds colliding man. Come on!

You invite em to play poker too?


+100 :smiley20:


I certainly don't only date divers. It's too hard to find someone really compatible overall. Adding a "must be a diver' clause would make it impossible around here.

That said, in the case of the original poster, I'd absolutely dump her too. I'd rather be with a non-diver than a diver who screws everyting up.

comet24
02-04-2008, 21:44
Was she hot.

newways
02-05-2008, 19:48
I'll not be convincing my fiance to begin diving anytime soon, she's not a good swimmer. However, I have a child on the way...he/she is gonna be a frog like me :)

abman
02-09-2008, 10:53
Why would you want to dive with wife/girlfriend? I dive for the peace,tranqullity,being at one with myself-maybe that's why i dive alone most of the time.
My wife doesn't dive,doesn't even know how to swim. why in the heck would i want to take her diving, I leave her home when i go diving. I go diving to have fun. I have a few friends that take their wifes/girlfriends diving.They end up babysitting them most of the time: I.E. Help me get my booties on,i forgot to turn my air on,my suits to tight,i forgot my mask,glove or what ever is the item du jour is. I've dove witha lot of really good women divers, i have nothing personal aginst them at all. i've dove with a lot of guy divers that are as bad or even worse that some of the women. Why put yourself and others around you at risk by diving with a stroke? it doesn't matter whether they are male or female. a BAD diver is a BAD diver you can't paint them any other color!

vel525
02-12-2008, 14:45
my wife and i started diving together when we were dating. since we both dive, most of our vacations are dive oriented.

pyre24
02-13-2008, 01:47
Im still trying to talk my friend in Ukraine to dive. Shes scared to because she is afraid she cant because she is a bad swimmer. But I sure wouldnt dump her if she was trying.

FBH1
02-23-2008, 10:38
I guess I'm lucky. My gf wants to learn how to dive. I think part of it is me talking about diving and her parents trying to talk her into get certified. We are talking about doing some dives once it warms up and after she gets her certification.

MicahEW
02-24-2008, 22:18
I guess I'm lucky. My gf wants to learn how to dive. I think part of it is me talking about diving and her parents trying to talk her into get certified. We are talking about doing some dives once it warms up and after she gets her certification.


same here I have taken her freediving but she wants to get certified.

scuba pup
02-25-2008, 01:38
i taught her to dive
married her
we went on a dive honeymoon (kapalai,borneo)
bought her equipment
now she plans all our DIVE vacations
excellent!!!!!!!!

DiverJoe
02-25-2008, 14:10
I'd have to say "teach her to dive better", anything else and you may've lost another diver to the world and a good friend too

Dive Safe All
DiverJoe

rfb3
02-26-2008, 10:45
I considered killing my wife one dive where she gave me the "go ahead" hand wave when I was motioning her back to our group. She has since stopped diving due to ear issues. I tell her she's the most educated non-diver in the world (OW and Nitrox certified).

I ate nemo
02-29-2008, 13:22
I think it would be mean to dump a girl just because she cant dive

ia2189
03-04-2008, 08:46
i taught her to dive
married her
we went on a dive honeymoon (kapalai,borneo)
bought her equipment
now she plans all our DIVE vacations
excellent!!!!!!!!


I agree. My wife loves to plan vacations where we can dive. She plans the vacations and I plan the dives. It's a great system!

scubacat80
03-04-2008, 21:42
I just married a woman six months ago from the midwest who never saw a large body of water until 5 years ago. Honestly, if she didn't make a committment to get certified before we got married, I don't think that we would have been.

I doubt though if she doesn't follow through that it would be over.

shad
03-14-2008, 17:36
teach her how to dive and if she can keep up keep her

Buoyant1
03-14-2008, 18:21
Actually....I think the fact that my wife DOESN'T dive is a plus! When on vacation..she hangs at the beach/pool/resort etc. I leave and go do MY thing, then meet up and everything's cool!:smiley20:

During season at home...I get to go out with my buddies, and she gets to clean the cat box! :smilie39::smiley32::smilie39::smiley32:

But she claims it helps her "bond" with the cats !

Splitlip
03-14-2008, 18:41
Atta pepper.

chris in the socal
03-14-2008, 18:44
Teach her to dive better and keep her

KennyD
04-07-2008, 19:31
My wife just started diving and I just up'd the insurance policy on her. I don't mind spending the extra $$$ on gear when I know I will get it back.:smilie39: On a lighter note, It's all about the training! Sounds like the girl needs a refresh course of some type.

Largo
04-07-2008, 20:31
It's not important that she dive with you.

What is important is that she doesn't gripe when you drop $300 on a wetsuit.

Dig?

RikRaeder
04-07-2008, 20:36
I'm with Phil! Time alone/away from girlie is also nice sometimes. My gf was a wreck diver for a long time. I'm not talking about sunken ships either! She was a menace to herself and others. I didn't see it as an impediment to our relationship, however. The only thing that would bother me about my gf not liking my hobby is if she tried to get in the way of it. If she enjoyed the same hobby, but was not good at it, I think I'd try to nurture her skills if I was more advanced (hey, that's what I did and now I can actually relax when we go diving together: maybe soon I can count on her in an emergency too).

mudshark
04-08-2008, 03:40
Sounds like the op's gf really didn't want to dive or want to make much of an effort to get better at it. She actually seems downright dangerous to herself and others and I wouldn't want to dive with her at all. My question to the op would be, "How badly do you want a relationship?" My guess is if the right girl came along it wouldn't matter to you if she dove or not, but it would matter if she got in the way of your diving activities.

I'm exceedingly lucky in that respect. My husband (sorry to invade your space but guys are in the women's forum and I have insomnia tonite) is very supportive of whatever I want to try and enjoy. I'm the diver in the house. He dives and enjoys it but I have twice the dives he does and have more diver education than he does. There's a cartoon on our refrigerator from Alert Diver magazine from a while ago. A guy tells his friend that he told his wife that she was diving too much and it was going to be diving or him. She made her choice and he was asking his friend if he could stay on his couch. I like the change in traditional roles. My husband wasn't so sure! :smilie39:

hooligan
04-09-2008, 19:37
My GF (now wife) had invited me on her family trip to Hawaii after we had been dating for like two months. I convinced her to take her OW class before we went (which she paid for;)), and get certified in HI. That worked out pretty well. We got married, went to Mexico for our honeymoon, dove in Coz. Now that we live in Japan, we've taken trips back to HI and to Australia and did a liveaboard for a couple of days. Yeah buying gear for 2 is expensive, but it's nice seeing her learn and improve her skills every time we go. Now she's nitrox certified and will probably do AOW this summer. I like that we don't have to fight about vacation plans... In fact, when we went to Australia, I was just planning on doing some daytrip dives and she said, “Why don’t we just do a liveaboard?” Can’t beat that.

Oh, and yes, she does get invited to play poker… And the last few times we’ve both taken 1st and 2nd, so we get to take all the $$ home (and no, we don’t do signals or cheat).

eenglish
04-28-2008, 19:26
Are you looking for a dive buddy or a girlfriend? Rarely are they the same. My husband is my dive buddy but we rarely see couples diving.

elijahb
05-22-2008, 13:26
I would teach her to dive better and keep dating

Geoff_T
05-23-2008, 00:38
Sounds like the op's gf really didn't want to dive or want to make much of an effort to get better at it. She actually seems downright dangerous to herself and others and I wouldn't want to dive with her at all. My question to the op would be, "How badly do you want a relationship?" My guess is if the right girl came along it wouldn't matter to you if she dove or not, but it would matter if she got in the way of your diving activities.

I'm exceedingly lucky in that respect. My husband (sorry to invade your space but guys are in the women's forum and I have insomnia tonite) is very supportive of whatever I want to try and enjoy. I'm the diver in the house. He dives and enjoys it but I have twice the dives he does and have more diver education than he does. There's a cartoon on our refrigerator from Alert Diver magazine from a while ago. A guy tells his friend that he told his wife that she was diving too much and it was going to be diving or him. She made her choice and he was asking his friend if he could stay on his couch. I like the change in traditional roles. My husband wasn't so sure! :smilie39:

Yeah I kind of see this too I don't think that I would want to dive with this person even if I married her. I had a rock climbing partner onece who was fond of saying careless gets you killed.

Scotttyd
05-23-2008, 05:42
My wife is a tropical vacation diver, so my NC dives are a time for us to enjoy our own hobbies. (mine diving, her horses). It is not always a bad thing to enjoy times "with the guys" but I do agree it would be much better if she was a diving addict (although much more expensive). Nah I would not dump her for just that, just have her be suface suport from now on.

Waterdog
05-23-2008, 10:29
My ex-wife was a horrible diver. There were several unsafe acts that occurred not just with me, but other divers as well. I don't think she has dove since we split up.

On the other side of the coin, my fiancee (who I met teaching an OW class) is a phenomenal diver. In less than a year she has racked up over 60 dives, and is more competent in the water than folks with much more experience!! I am a lucky man!!!!! :smiley2:

Madmax1997
05-23-2008, 22:02
Well, we got only one side of the story... it sound more that you are looking for any reason to dump her anyway.

A mask and a dive knife...it's only material... and quite cheap.

Who teach her diving? If it's you...

Did you ever ask her if she like or wanted to dive? And listen to her answer (not what you want to hear)...maybe she doesn't like diving but tried because she think sharing similar interest would be fun.... At least she tried... have you tried to understand what's in her head, why she panic or fear?

Did you ever ask yourself why she is trying something that she obviously have not interest in or having natural skills for. Good or bad (reasons), it's your call, it's your life...

longtailbda
05-31-2008, 20:50
Finding a good dive partner is easy. I waited 20 yrs. for my wife to try diving and I wouldn't give up a minute of it.