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caburrid
07-12-2009, 07:19
My husband and I have been married for about a year now and we were blessed to have twins about three months ago, naturally and after 24 hours of labor. I was up and walking within 30 minutes to see my babies before they went to the NICU.

Now I am starting to get into diving (he already is), and now he has a "tweaked" back and can't do anything like mow the lawn or even put dishes away, but he sure gets up easy enough to go to the bathroom, lol. Does anyone here have a man that is a baby? If so, how do you deal with it? He whines like an extra baby and it drives me nuts!

scubastud
07-12-2009, 08:42
Are you sure you aren't my wife and using a secret name/profile?

Hey kiddo.. you just dropped a couple kids big deal ..I hear it's like taking a medium sized dooky..

Back problems are way more painful!

DivingCRNA
07-12-2009, 08:54
This post was made by someone who has never had their back go out.....

I treat back pain for a living. :D

IrishSquid
07-12-2009, 09:10
I'll give you women credit. :smiley20: The human race would have died off near the very beginning of time if us men were the ones that had to give birth. With that said, I have "tweaked" my back a few times. Lifting heavy weights in the gym, etc. is never an issue. We prepare for that. It is usually something as simple as putting on a sock, or picking up a cup of coffee, etc. that does it. Not being ready (laziness) for some crazy angle and leverage will do it. When my back gets tweaked, it is next to impossible to sit, lay, bend, stretch or anything. It sends an electric type of shock from my knees to the top of my head and makes me want to puke. I don't know if your Hubby has the same type tweak, but they're usually torn muscles and hard to deal with, kinda like pushing a rope. :smiley2:
Cute avatar by the way!

PTAaron
07-12-2009, 09:27
This post was made by someone who has never had their back go out.....

I treat back pain for a living. :D
Couldn't agree more.

I've had (female) patients actually say they would rather give birth than be in the pain they have from a back injury.

scubastud
07-12-2009, 10:01
Yes, I was goofing bout childbirth, but not about the back... I have a disc that gives me trouble from time to time and believe me, the pain is real.. all I can do to crawl to the bathroom to pee...
And congrats on the babies!

caburrid
07-12-2009, 12:09
Haha, I just read my post and realize it may sound a bit harsh. I do really feel bad for him, I just can't necessarily equate it to the pain I have had and been able to operate. I am hoping he gets back on his feet sometime soon though. I could really use some help with those twins!

mm_dm
07-12-2009, 18:50
No problem. If you want women to read this post though, put it in the men's forum.
:smiley36:

DevilDiver
07-12-2009, 20:05
No problem. If you want women to read this post though, put it in the men's forum.
:smiley36:

:smilie39: Ahhhh, the good old days.

porkchop
07-12-2009, 21:54
Words of advice from a woman who's been married for 20 years (and popped out two kids) to a man who has had four back surgeries from a broken back.... Putting away the dishes is not a big deal. If the grass grows up to the windows... so what. Enjoy your time with the twins. Enjoy your time with your new husband. If I'm assuming right, he's feeling bad about not being able to do the things that he thinks he should be doing even if he's not sharing that with you. I've seen my husband unable to get off the floor in a cold sweat from the pain. I would mow the whole neighborhood if it helped him out... You can't equate childbirth to a back inujury. Getting up after popping out a kid is instinct as a mother. Our bodes are made to do that.

Many wishes for a quick recovery and the best of luck to you and your family.

Recon
07-13-2009, 00:42
My wife has back "issues" and she also gave birth to a great little girl, now 2.5 years old... if you ask her what hurts worse.... back pain by far... to that note.... when I get sick.... I stay in bed and she brings me soup... cause I am NO go at doing anything, I can't even process simple math when sick... and having had my back hurt in a falling accident I can tell you, that even peeing... can become a dreadful event...

~Recon

scubastud
07-13-2009, 04:38
Words of advice from a woman who's been married for 20 years (and popped out two kids) to a man who has had four back surgeries from a broken back.... Putting away the dishes is not a big deal. If the grass grows up to the windows... so what. Enjoy your time with the twins. Enjoy your time with your new husband. If I'm assuming right, he's feeling bad about not being able to do the things that he thinks he should be doing even if he's not sharing that with you. I've seen my husband unable to get off the floor in a cold sweat from the pain. I would mow the whole neighborhood if it helped him out... You can't equate childbirth to a back inujury. Getting up after popping out a kid is instinct as a mother. Our bodes are made to do that.

Many wishes for a quick recovery and the best of luck to you and your family.

I love this lady.

oddbod
07-13-2009, 06:55
It is called hormones:smiley29:, if it wasn't for them first numbing the pain and then deleting it from the memory very few mothers would voluntarily return to motherhood a second time. A few lady friends have rated kidney stones worse than giving birth (no hormones working whilst they passed the stones) and I personally would rate severe back pain as worse than passing a kidney stone, especially after the pethidine, mind you if the stone was bigger?

MSilvia
07-13-2009, 09:32
I "tweaked" my back one time while helping my brother move, and wound up in the fetal position in his driveway. With fairly high doses of painkillers, I was able to limp with a cane within three days. Childbirth is nothing to laugh at, but don't make the mistake of thinking back pain isn't debilitating.

Suther2136
07-14-2009, 10:07
It is called hormones:smiley29:, if it wasn't for them first numbing the pain and then deleting it from the memory very few mothers would voluntarily return to motherhood a second time. A few lady friends have rated kidney stones worse than giving birth (no hormones working whilst they passed the stones) and I personally would rate severe back pain as worse than passing a kidney stone, especially after the pethidine, mind you if the stone was bigger?

If only we could use those hormones to get women to delete or previous mistakes, so we wouldn't have to relive them in the future. I think guys have that hormone...

bennerman
07-14-2009, 10:25
WE ARE NOT BABIES!!!! I am telling on you!
*goes to pout*

cummings66
07-14-2009, 18:09
As a male who has hurt his back, I can tell you this much. I've broken my leg, no comparison to a back injury. I've been hit in the head by a cinder block which fell from 20 feet and required stitches to patch me up, after I regained consciousnesses, again there was no comparison to back pain. I've hit the pavement in a motorcycle wreck going 60 mph, again, back pain was much worse than the crash. I had my head go through a windshield of a car in an accident and landed in the hospital, again the back pain was worse.

I've hurt so bad that air currents hurt me and I needed help to get out of the bed, from what I've seen there is very little that compares to it. Until you experience it first hand, until you know that you would really rather die than suffer the pain you can't know how debilitating back pain is. Your back is what supports your entire body, when it goes south everything is impacted.

Wish him well, give him a hug and say thanks for being there for me at the hospital. Assuming he was. Now, it's your turn to be there for him as hard as it might be.

Recon
07-14-2009, 18:17
As a male who has hurt his back, I can tell you this much. I've broken my leg, no comparison to a back injury. I've been hit in the head by a cinder block which fell from 20 feet and required stitches to patch me up, after I regained consciousnesses, again there was no comparison to back pain. I've hit the pavement in a motorcycle wreck going 60 mph, again, back pain was much worse than the crash. I had my head go through a windshield of a car in an accident and landed in the hospital, again the back pain was worse.

I've hurt so bad that air currents hurt me and I needed help to get out of the bed, from what I've seen there is very little that compares to it. Until you experience it first hand, until you know that you would really rather die than suffer the pain you can't know how debilitating back pain is. Your back is what supports your entire body, when it goes south everything is impacted.

Wish him well, give him a hug and say thanks for being there for me at the hospital. Assuming he was. Now, it's your turn to be there for him as hard as it might be.

Do you wanna go to the casino... cause to still be breathing after all of that happened to you is LUCKY.

~Recon

porkchop
07-15-2009, 17:51
As a male who has hurt his back, I can tell you this much. I've broken my leg, no comparison to a back injury. I've been hit in the head by a cinder block which fell from 20 feet and required stitches to patch me up, after I regained consciousnesses, again there was no comparison to back pain. I've hit the pavement in a motorcycle wreck going 60 mph, again, back pain was much worse than the crash. I had my head go through a windshield of a car in an accident and landed in the hospital, again the back pain was worse.

I've hurt so bad that air currents hurt me and I needed help to get out of the bed, from what I've seen there is very little that compares to it. Until you experience it first hand, until you know that you would really rather die than suffer the pain you can't know how debilitating back pain is. Your back is what supports your entire body, when it goes south everything is impacted.

Wish him well, give him a hug and say thanks for being there for me at the hospital. Assuming he was. Now, it's your turn to be there for him as hard as it might be.

Do you wanna go to the casino... cause to still be breathing after all of that happened to you is LUCKY.

~Recon

Count me in!!!

cummings66
07-16-2009, 10:08
It sounds like I've lead a lucky life, guess I have. But over 43 years of living on the edge does take it's toll. Did I mention I fell off a roof this past Winter and hurt my back and shoulder yet again? It was a short 17 foot drop so it only hurt a little when I landed, and not on my feet.

While I'm a man and perhaps a baby at times, I have experienced enough pain from living life to know that it's not something you make light of. It can and will stop you in your tracks. I can understand the need for a break, kids are very rough on you. Our daughter didn't sleep through the night for 17 months, and she managed to sleep about 3 hours a day here and there during that time. The Ped. said she was cut out to be a CEO and had no problems, but it nearly killed us. So I can understand the need for help, really I do. I've been there, done that, and have the puke stains to prove it on the T Shirt. Still, wouldn't trade it for anything on Earth.

See that little girl in my Avatar, she and my wife are my life and I wouldn't give up a second with either one.

mollymae006
07-20-2009, 22:05
If you are like me, when my husband is unavailable for any extended amount of time (due to anything) having two small children to care for on your own becomes very overwhelming especially when he is a wonderful husband that does help out regularly. Add to it that he is in pain and it makes things rough.

I hope he gets to feeling better soon!

sid101
07-21-2009, 13:08
Oh back pain. I can honestly tell you a discal herniation wich is what i have can make a life completelly miserable, for men this happens mostly because most of us have an image of ourselves, specially divers.

Not being able to do anything is one of the hardest things i go through when my back starts to act out, can't walk, can't stay in bed, can't talk to anyone because we just got too much pride in being "a man", giving birth must be one of the most painful experiences anyone could endure but is a pain that passes, back pain is there all the time even in the days we say "let's go do something" don't think we are not in pain, we are just tired of that %$&"$%/ pain taking over our lives. We start thinking "she desserves better" and stuff like that and it's a really bad place to be.

For example, last year i started acting in this forum, i looked to a place to get my OW, i was SO happy i was finally going to get certified and my pain was within manageable limits so i thought everything was going to be all right, then ther morning i woke up to go pay my OW course my mom was about to fall down due to some water on the floor and i picked her up, the result, a year of pain and injurie, my girlfriend/ future wife has learned to cope with me when i get overcranky or just have too much pain to do anything, 7 months ago started to walk well again, started a career in real state and everyhting has been going fine i'm talking to my OW instructor and he has told me once i step in the water and feel my back elongate i will be in heaven, we are just a little concerned about the tank weight and my back so i started to exercise my back.

It's painfull as hell but i have felt some improvement in my ability to carry weight on my back or even just carrying stuff on my arms, last week i was able to carry two AL80 in my arms and 1 in my back for about 150 yards, this i great i thought and so i have just been waiting for a check to come along and pay for the OW course, this morning well i must have slept in a bad possition or something because the pain is eating me out, at least i got my laptop...

I am not trying in any way to tell you childbirth is nothing compared to back pain, maybe i would choose to give birth instead of this back problem but are completelly different thing, for what i know a lot of women come to a point in child birth where the pain is so great they think they may not make it, a back pain person in the other hand never thinks the pain is going to kill them.

Of course i understand taking care of the cubs by yourself is overhwealming and you would like to kick his butt of the couch/bed sometimes but believe me, he will make up for all this as soon as he can.

I wish the best for you and your husband, my kindest regards to you both and the beautyfull lives that you brought to
this world, tell them "welcome to the dry world" from me =).

BuzzF117
08-28-2009, 20:40
If there is a pain index I have a bulging disk in lower back that gives me fits but it's no where near the pain of a severe hamstring pull it was more painful then my vasectomy. Oh yeah had hip replacement and went back to work after 16 days it was a breeze compared to the hamstring. The hamstring pull is by far the most pain I have ever been in couldn't do anything even using the toilet was painfull.

Vercingetorix
08-29-2009, 07:29
Now I am starting to get into diving (he already is), and now he has a "tweaked" back and can't do anything like mow the lawn or even put dishes away, but he sure gets up easy enough to go to the bathroom, lol.I'm going to break the Man Code here...but just this once.

I also suffer from a bad back...have for decades, and my wife knows it. When I don't want to do some friggin' honey-do, I simply say, "Sorry, darling, the back is killing me. Gotta go pop some Advil."

"Sinus headache" is another great one.

/guys, please don't pull my man-card. This had to be said.

Bigake
08-29-2009, 07:39
Porkchop:

Way to go girl! I have had my neck fused and lower back surgery.. Although I am fine now, the pain I went through was hard to explain.. Your attitude for your husband is Great...

snagel
08-29-2009, 08:31
Is this the "hear me whine about my back" thread?

Let me add....Last January I woke up and had such intense pain in my left leg. I honestly believe that if I had a chainsaw I would have cut my leg off. No position was comfortable. The pain just seemed to get more and more intense as the minutes went by. I have to say that I might have said a few things to my wife during this time that I should not have. She was very irritated with me. All I wanted was for her to contact my doctor and get something to knock me out and she couldn't get a hold of anybody. After a day of this, finally my doctor called in some pain meds and in the following days I had an MRI - 2 ruptured discs in the lower back.

I was there for the birth of my child. I remember the pain my wife was in and still have the scars on my chest from her nails ripping by chest hair out. We have talked about both of these episodes and often debate who was in more pain. I don't know, I didn't feel hers and she didn't feel mine. The stresses for me is the irritation I had toward her and what she demonstrated to me. It is easy for somebody to get very irritated when somebody close to you is in pain. Its frustrating when you cannot fixed it and the person in pain gets so upset when you appear to be doing nothing.

Snagel

bennerman
08-29-2009, 10:54
My posture sucks... oh, this is the "back hurts" thread, not "generic complaints about my back"... sorry y'all

cummings66
08-29-2009, 12:23
Let me give you bennerman a word of advice. You're 15, you're at an age where you are indestructible or so you think. You are not, nor will you ever be.

Learn now the lessons I'm going to teach you and perhaps you can avoid what so many of us in this thread have experienced.

First, it doesn't make you less of a man to ask for help when you're lifting something heavy, in fact I encourage you to do so, and not just when it's heavier than you can lift. Do it on any heavy object. Years down the road the wear and tear that gets to you will be reduced. Learn to lift with your legs, not your back. Never ever bend over and pick something up, it's very hard on your back, even a 5 lb object picked up that way can hurt you given the right conditions.

Treat your back with care now and perhaps you will be free of pain when you get older. Your disks are still young and tender, they harden as you age and so you're more at risk of damage now.

I was young and if I could redo anything it would be to take care of my back better than I did. I was such a man back then, and now I'm suffering from it daily. Learn from my mistakes, don't repeat them. Ask for help and don't tough it out. Just because you can lift it doesn't mean you should lift it.

bennerman
08-29-2009, 12:47
Let me give you bennerman a word of advice. You're 15, you're at an age where you are indestructible or so you think. You are not, nor will you ever be.

Learn now the lessons I'm going to teach you and perhaps you can avoid what so many of us in this thread have experienced.

First, it doesn't make you less of a man to ask for help when you're lifting something heavy, in fact I encourage you to do so, and not just when it's heavier than you can lift. Do it on any heavy object. Years down the road the wear and tear that gets to you will be reduced. Learn to lift with your legs, not your back. Never ever bend over and pick something up, it's very hard on your back, even a 5 lb object picked up that way can hurt you given the right conditions.

Treat your back with care now and perhaps you will be free of pain when you get older. Your disks are still young and tender, they harden as you age and so you're more at risk of damage now.

I was young and if I could redo anything it would be to take care of my back better than I did. I was such a man back then, and now I'm suffering from it daily. Learn from my mistakes, don't repeat them. Ask for help and don't tough it out. Just because you can lift it doesn't mean you should lift it.

I don't think I am indestructible... I am whining about a burn I just got, for example.

snagel
08-30-2009, 03:15
Matt, your absolutely correct. I just recently turned 42 and things just seem to be falling apart. In my younger days, I thought I was tough and "I wasn't going to be like all the old guys", but time has a way of catching up to us. I work with a guy that is 64 (can't retire due to the economy - whole different thread). He laughs at me when I talk about the aches and pains. Honestly, he probably is in better shape than me because he has taken care of his body all his life (kinda a nut like that). Today he rides his bike 20 miles a day, still.

Ten foot high and bullet proof does not last for ever.

Snagel

bennerman
08-30-2009, 10:47
Is this a really bad time to point out that my dad just said he is trying to get me a job helping him roof?

Vercingetorix
08-30-2009, 14:33
Is this a really bad time to point out that my dad just said he is trying to get me a job helping him roof?When I was doing roofing, I was talking to the boss about medical insurance.

His response: you're covered as an employee. The moment before you fall off the roof, you're fired.

cummings66
08-30-2009, 21:08
I almost fell through a church roof I was helping to put on. The wood was a bit more rotted than thought, long way down. I got lucky, the pastor was there and pulled me back up on the roof. Nasty job roofing, but somebodies got to do it.