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FFDiver
12-24-2010, 16:10
Hello everyone,
During the holidays everything is often happy and everyone is celebrating however for some it is not a good time as life can change in an instant.
So please remember the families of the two Chicago firefighters that lost their lives in a fire. They gave all trying to save a vacant building. Such a sad time.
On a sad happening closer to home, Kannapolis Fire Dept. which is where I work at, lost a firefighter to a heart attack on Wed. He leaves behind a family and son.
It is a shame that these and countless other families will have to associate this with Christmas from now on and deal with the pain.
Everyone please be safe and count your blessings as a persons life can change in an instant.

Splitlip
12-24-2010, 17:23
Thanks for posting. Allows me to off gas.

My 60 year old cousin died of a massive coronary Tuesday 12/21. While he had a homes here and in Vermont, his heart was in New York. He planned to visit his kids and their families on Long Island for Christmas. Then he was going to fly to Italy to spend time with his siblings.

My sweet little 18 year old cousin was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma last month. She is in the fight of her young life.

Between me and my Mother, we have 9 guests from Tampa, New York, San Antonio, New Jersey and Key West. Glad we have a furnished condo on the beach which is vacant until 01/01/11.

Great to have us all here, but it won't all be about merry making.

Last time I was at a party where everybody was feeling Merry, Merry went home and the party broke up shortly thereafter.

Oh, BTW...cancer sucks.

TwistedSister209
12-24-2010, 18:03
My heart goes out to all!

KO-Texas
12-25-2010, 07:44
My heart goes out to anyone who has ever lost a loved one this time of year!!
It's really tough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KO

scubagirlj
12-25-2010, 07:55
year #2, no, not easier yet:smiley19::smiley19::smiley19::smiley19::smiley 19:

scubastud
12-26-2010, 01:40
Extremely hard day for us, and will not get easier for some time.
I am afraid Christmas will never be the same.
That said, don't want to bring anyone down, I just wish one particular nurse on this hospice floor will
stop asking me how I am doing and how was my Christmas when I frikkin spent it holding my non responsive pop's hand.
She works right here! Oh and dear nurse, I really don't want to hear you whine that you have to work Christmas day and gee
all your troubles getting from one party to another.
Did I mention she frikkin works right where my pop is? Would also be nice to at least look at my dad when she walks in the room, instead
of barging in, complain, head to the table to see if my sister brought any more home made candy, fill her hands and then leave.
Merry Christmas.

Davetowz
12-26-2010, 02:05
SS I can relate, had similar dealings with Grandfather, however I can also understand, yet not condone, the fact that those folks deal with this sh%$ every working day and probably get cold to some of the more human factors. To work in that environment and maintain a real human persona would be almost superhuman. I lost my Father almost 31 years ago and still think of him all the time, the Holidays are even more a reminder. I only smile now when I remember how much he showed the true Christmas spirit. I have had to tell stories of the grandfather they never knew to my daughters every Christmas that I have been able to be home. I have come to enjoy that, I remember only good times now. May peace find you and your family as you endure these trying times.
Dave.

Vercingetorix
12-26-2010, 06:49
Stud, maybe you need to find a polite way to tell her to STFU and GTFO. She's insensitive, so embarassment and/or shame might work to break through her shell. That is, let her know she has no problems compared to yours. Don't be mean, be direct. After subtlety fails, I often use directness, where needed (an d my wife hates it), but sometimes, it is required.

Lulubelle
12-26-2010, 08:54
Extremely hard day for us, and will not get easier for some time.
I am afraid Christmas will never be the same.
That said, don't want to bring anyone down, I just wish one particular nurse on this hospice floor will
stop asking me how I am doing and how was my Christmas when I frikkin spent it holding my non responsive pop's hand.
She works right here! Oh and dear nurse, I really don't want to hear you whine that you have to work Christmas day and gee
all your troubles getting from one party to another.
Did I mention she frikkin works right where my pop is? Would also be nice to at least look at my dad when she walks in the room, instead
of barging in, complain, head to the table to see if my sister brought any more home made candy, fill her hands and then leave.
Merry Christmas.

SS, I am so sorry for what you are going through but really happy that you are there with your Dad. Keep talking to him, touching him, etc. You might be surprised as how much he is able to hear and feel. I remember caring for a 16 year old who was brain dead. I'd tell him about Carolina basketball because his Mom said he was a fan. I moved on to another rotation. Docs were wrong, he recovered. He remembered me, and only me, from amongst the nurses caring for him while he was not responding.

As for the nurse, she probably needs to work an area other than hospice. Tell her, nicely, firmly.

I lost my Dad just before Thanksgiving many years ago. I remember when I went back to work it was almost unbearable to hear people bitch about the weather, traffic, etc when my world had just ground to a halt. So I understand how her behavior makes you feel.




SS I can relate, had similar dealings with Grandfather, however I can also understand, yet not condone, the fact that those folks deal with this sh%$ every working day and probably get cold to some of the more human factors. To work in that environment and maintain a real human persona would be almost superhuman.

It's not superhuman at all. I used to care for terminal children. Sometimes my job was to help a family face a dignified death. I always cared. I have a nephew who is not going to grow up. All lives are not long, but all are valuable and have a purpose. And personally, I believe that these kids were going to a far better place than I was working in. The faith that I have made it bearable.



Stud, maybe you need to find a polite way to tell her to STFU and GTFO. She's insensitive, so embarassment and/or shame might work to break through her shell. That is, let her know she has no problems compared to yours. Don't be mean, be direct. After subtlety fails, I often use directness, where needed (an d my wife hates it), but sometimes, it is required.

Embarrassment and shame rarely work to change a person's behavior. A kind and direct communication is what is needed here.

scubastud
12-26-2010, 11:53
Thanks guys, I really know life goes on, and you are kind and tolerant with me.

Here's a kinda funny story.

My sister from Domenica is here, here is a conversation we had Christmas morning.

sis looking out the window: "Oh, sh** it's snowing."

Me: "Patti, think of the millions of children looking out the wondow right now all bright eyed and excited that it is snowing Christmas morning."

Sis: "Fu** them."

Told her she makes Scrooge look like Mother Theresa.

scubagirlj
12-26-2010, 12:13
i love your sister!

buddha0724
12-27-2010, 14:01
Polite way? I would just tell her straight out. I understand she has a crappy job, but she chose it. Shec an also change it. I feel for you SS. When my mom was in i got extremely lucky and had a heck of a nurse and crew there. They rocked and i will forever remember them in a positive way.

scubastud
12-27-2010, 14:38
she a nurse aid, done been fixed thanks all!
Rest of the staff is top notch, she has ben um... well she gone.

navyhmc
12-27-2010, 19:20
Glad to know you took care of that annoyance Stud, folks like that shouldn't be in a facility of that nature....or any health care facility...

carolynabrams
02-27-2016, 04:51
Owe..!!!

It is a life.It happens!

carolynabrams
02-27-2016, 04:52
It is a life . It happens!

mcr0112
02-28-2016, 13:52
I worked 34 years as a Police Officer and had to deliver bad news to Families. Or deal with horrific car accidents. Then i switched to Crime Scenes. You do become used to the bad things somewhat. In order for me to do my job I couldn't be going to pieces at a scene. BUT I ALWAYS remembered that the PERSON I was working a scene on has a Family. I would take the time to explain what I was going to do & why. I also tried to show as much respect to the person.
On the other hand when I was working part time on an ambulance I would be too busy trying to save a life to be "nice". If it was a transfer or afterward the call I would revert to the caring person. I voulenteered to work holidays so others with small kids could be off. I mainly worked nights as an Officer and 24 hr shift as EMS.
People who are in the position to care for others should remember to treat those like they would want to be cared for.