you go away for a week

[scubasamurai]

ok
here is a vent forum. i go away on a vacation for a week on the aggressor. i make sure everything is taken care of before i leave the kids. my wife had her vacation before i left for mine so there is no questions there. after i get back she doesn't even want to touch me, so you think she is mad?? fooling around?? or what??? JUST FOR fyi i am the one that stays home with the kids and takes care of the house while she does her career thing. so what does everyone think??? am i going crazy? i am faithful but i think after a week she want to do something. just venting and confused. have at it with this guys and gals

[mwhities]

Have you taken a shower and cleaned up? After two days of diving, my wife doesn't want to touch me...

Sorry man, not sure. I've never ran into that problem. Sit her down and ask her what's up. Why won't she "touch" you or whatever.

Michael

[DivingCRNA]

Is Aunt Flow in town?

[obrules15]

Originally Posted by scubasamurai

ok
here is a vent forum. i go away on a vacation for a week on the aggressor. i make sure everything is taken care of before i leave the kids. my wife had her vacation before i left for mine so there is no questions there. after i get back she doesn't even want to touch me, so you think she is mad?? fooling around?? or what??? JUST FOR fyi i am the one that stays home with the kids and takes care of the house while she does her career thing. so what does everyone think??? am i going crazy? i am faithful but i think after a week she want to do something. just venting and confused. have at it with this guys and gals

I need more info to even begin to comment, but, as a woman what I can say for sure is that women are weird. There is no telling what is going on.

[matt151617]

Originally Posted by obrules15

I need more info to even begin to comment, but, as a woman what I can say for sure is that women are weird. There is no telling what is going on.

You can say that again. Wait a couple days and see if her mood changes. Definitely don't go "what's your problem?".

[Beaucoupfishies]

Best way to find out is to ask. Obviously don't go up and ask her what her problem is. Just tell her she's seemed distant since you got back and you'd like to find out why.

Worst thing you can do is say nothing and wait. If she gives a reason that seems ludicrous to you, don't get mad. Tell her that you don't understand but you'd like to, and avoiding you will only make things worse.

Good luck!

[scubasamurai]

i did take the shower deal and cleaned up, even asked if she was mad at for me going still no clue?? will take the advice and chill for awhile. man should have married a women into diving

[DollFin]

Personally, as a woman, I don't understand most other women (mot of my best friends are guys! LOL). If you're PO'd about something, why play a bunch of mind games rather than just come out and SAY you're PO'd? At any rate, I agree with Beaucoup - let her know you're concerned by her withdrawl and want to make sure everything's OK. Maybe something happened while you were gone and she's feeling vulnerable but doesn't think you'd understand, so letting her know you at least want to try to understand might help.

[mm_dm]

Try talking to her about other things, even little trivial things. It will come out sooner or later and will probably be in a indirect manner. Most likely you'll ask her a question like "can I get you anything form the kitchen while I'm up? and you'll get a response about something else altogether. Don't get angry or impatient, you may be the whole problem or you may be a symptom of something else going on with her. Good luck my friend.

[torrey]

If you're the one that typically takes care of the kids, it was probably a burden for her to have to re-plan her days so she could take the kids to the sitter, get to work, pick them up, and take care of everything else you do at home.