My Male Roommate

[scubasavvy]

I need a man's point of view on this. Is my roommate just an idiot or a typical male? I'm going to go with an idiot. Here's the story:

He started being way too nice to me, which led all of us (visitors included) here at my Beacon Hill residence to believe that he was interested in me. We later got into a conversation about relationships, where I told him that I was single and it was going to stay that way. If that doesn't scream "I'm not interested," I don't know what does.

So one night before going out to dinner with some friends, he started texting me so that no one could hear what he was saying. Anyway the text read something like this: "Your rear end looks amazing in those jeans." At this point in time I verbally replied with "You're a perv." Bad idea. He thought I was joking for some reason, so he sent a text back that read: "I'm not trying to be a perv, your rear looks amazing in those jeans." Ok? So in my book, or anyone else's book that isn't a sexual predator, he's a pervert. Nicely I texted him back and told him that I wasn't interested and it wasn't going to happen...ever.

His innuendos were then directed toward our friends or any other female visitor that came to the apartment. My other roommate was planning on inviting a very shy friend over for the evening, but she called and canceled the plans for obvious reasons.

As time went on, we started putting the pieces of our apartment together, which included the printer. He had asked me to install the drivers and software on his laptop so that he could use it and not bother anyone else. Well, when I installed the printer, one of the programs that installed was a picture manager, which popped up with his entire photo collection. Low and behold in his "picture collection" (I'm keeping it G rated here for the kids on the site) was a picture of me that he took off Facebook. At this point, I was alarmed. Now I have a stalker.

I confronted him and told him that if he ever made another sexual innuendo to myself or any of my friends, comment about how I looked amazing in anything, or if I found any other freaky nonsense that he shouldn't have I'd have him arrested and reported to the university. Needless to say, all of that has stopped, but he now interrogates my other roommate about me, who I've been with and how it's gone. The other night was pretty interesting. He had asked her why I didn't want a relationship with anyone, not with him specifically (yeah, I'm sure), and he didn't want to ask me straight up (but I told him at least 15 times before why) because I get very defensive.

What do you guys think? I can't get rid of him because he's $1120 of my rent in the middle of the year...

I'm going to make a man law right here: If someone says they're not interested...they're not interested.

[ccarter]

There's just unstable/obsessive people randomly scattered around the world that are both male and female.. not sure that's really a "need help with a guy" issue.. more of a "need help with a crazy person" issue..

[jo8243]

You never explicity say it, but I'm assuming you are female. Why do you have a male roomate? Asking for trouble......

[Vercingetorix]

Can you find another room-mate? Or another apartment? You've obviously already explored these options. If it gets worse, you may consider criminal complaint or a court order.

Another angle, is that he may think you're playing hard-to-get. How polite are you when you decline? Don't be; it may require rudeness.

He may think that you can't get rid of him because you are financially dependent on him, which you are.

And I,too,had the same question as jo8243. Your profle indicates" No Gender Specified"

[scubasavvy]

Originally Posted by ccarter

There's just unstable/obsessive people randomly scattered around the world that are both male and female.. not sure that's really a "need help with a guy" issue.. more of a "need help with a crazy person" issue..

You've got crazy right. Not to be sexist or anything, I mean I'm a woman, but I find that we're usually the unstable/obsessive ones. I think he's just a creep.

[scubasavvy]

Originally Posted by jo8243

You never explicity say it, but I'm assuming you are female. Why do you have a male roomate? Asking for trouble......

I think it's easier to live with a guy. They're so much more relaxed than another girl would have been. I moved in with my best friend from high school and when we met this guy (from off campus housing none the less) we discussed how we were going to do our own thing and he was going to do his. He's older and has other friends. He won't be living with us next year though, that's for sure.

[scubasavvy]

lol, so many questions...yes I'm female and yes I was completely rude every time he made comments.

[jo8243]

Originally Posted by scubasavvy

You've got crazy right. Not to be sexist or anything, I mean I'm a woman, but I find that we're usually the unstable/obsessive ones. I think he's just a creep.

I'm a man and I'm here to tell you... all men are pigs. Any man who says they are not is lying. Men and women were not meant to be platonic roomates. Get rid of him.

[ccarter]

Originally Posted by jo8243

I'm a girlie man and I'm here to tell you... all men are pigs. Any man who says they are not is lying. Men and women were not meant to be platonic roomates. Get rid of him.

Word.

Also.. personally.. (and i know the above poster is too (my brother)) I'm insanely messy.. most other males I know are too with the exception of a few really anal people that have everything waaayy to neat. Although most females I know/have met are clean freaks.. wouldn't think a girl would choose to have a guy as a roomate based soley on that..

[scubasavvy]

You can be a pig and understand that no means no...that's all I ask...but he's leaving as soon as the lease is up. I'm kind of stuck between a rock and hard place until that happens. The lease specifically reads if one of the roomies bails out, the other two are responsible for the rent. So I'd have to come up with another $1120 a month...