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    new diver with buddy issues

    hey I got my c-card back in January (and it was very very cold but awesome) with the intention of me and my wife diving together, but my wife did not make it through the dive class. So am in demand for some one to dive with. I am planning on buying the rest of my gear here in a month or 2 as soon as overtime kicks in but if anyone wants to dive let me know, I need to get in the water or I am going to lose the skills I learned.

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    You might want to give a little more detail about where you are located.....

    Welcome to the forum!
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    yeah that would be good, I am in Arlington about 5 miles from Joe Pool lake.

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    There are always people out at CSSP you just need to find a few and make a plan. You could start at looking into some of the local dive clubs, good way to meet locals and find buddies. You will see people post here planning to go to CSSP and/or looking for buddies also.

    Gear would be a good idea, renting will get expensive quick and you have to pick up and take back.
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    I will have to chime in here, if my little friend, you want to keep a happy spouse, you may want to help her get through the class...... Another class, show her you want "HER" to be your dive buddy, or your dive life will become increasingly more difficult.

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    What happened with your wife in class?

    I concur with the spouse as dive buddy comments. If she wants to dive, there is no better buddy.

    My ex-wife was a certified diver, but NEVER wanted to dive except on expensive vacations. She got certified on her own, without pressure from me, when we were dating and she thought diving sounded cool. Diving did not break us up, but it did not help.

    Now I have an awesome girlfriend who not only dives, but had a dry suit before I even met her. We both want to dive the same places-everywhere! We have great adventures and it is a great bonding experience. Nothing beats a great spouse/buddy relationship!
    PADI Dive Master, Master Diver, and Cavern. SDI Solo Diver. DSAT Tec 50. TDI Trimix.

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    During the pool phase of the class we were working on removing our mask and she got a lot of chlorine water up here nose, causing her sinus passages to completely closed. This made it so she could not blow any air out of her nose. and it kind of upset her so I am working on her trying to get her back into it. I think will take a while though.

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    I have a different perspective on this. A person should NEVER dive as a hobby to make someone else happy. I am glad my wife loves it as much as I do, but if she didn't I would consider it a bad idea to coerce her into it. There is a fine line and I see nothing wrong with getting the person certified so they can try it, but if they showed no interest after that best to let that dog lie.

    Local diving club as has been mentioned above is your best shot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by R-brink View Post
    During the pool phase of the class we were working on removing our mask and she got a lot of chlorine water up here nose, causing her sinus passages to completely closed. This made it so she could not blow any air out of her nose. and it kind of upset her so I am working on her trying to get her back into it. I think will take a while though.
    Let her know that skill and the water up her nose happens to 9 out of 10 divers. It really has to do with HOW you take the mask off.

    I was doing a pool tec dive wearing doubles in 6 ft of water. Without thinking, during the mask removal drill, I just yanked my mask off. Why not? I have no fear or alarm at not having a mask on my face. Well, by YANKING it off, I pushed water up my nose and sat there on the bottom completely baffled and bolted for the surface.

    DUAH.

    Review the technique with her by flooding the mask by pulling away the top of the skirt gently.

    It's really one of those things she will laugh at later on. We all do it at one time or another, even with 100's of dives under our belts.

    Here's another to share with her. I completed my Rescue course recently. During the course, I used a snorkle on my mask for the first time since Sept 2008 (about 1 dive after being certified). I'm playing at the surface breathing through the snorkle acting like a dork. Everyone decides to head down, I let the air out of my wing (see where this is going?)

    and, yep. At 4 ft I took a breath and received NOTHING. (Thank goodness I have a really cool and expensive snorkle that closes when under water).

    I was laughed at for hours.

    I hope my stories let her know that while at the time the situation is not funny, over time it becomes an "I can't believe I did THAT" story. Also, the mask skill is one of the more challenging, so she shouldn't feel alone.
    Last edited by gNats; 06-30-2010 at 10:49.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Straegen View Post
    I have a different perspective on this. A person should NEVER dive as a hobby to make someone else happy. I am glad my wife loves it as much as I do, but if she didn't I would consider it a bad idea to coerce her into it. There is a fine line and I see nothing wrong with getting the person certified so they can try it, but if they showed no interest after that best to let that dog lie.

    Local diving club as has been mentioned above is your best shot.
    I agree with you Straegen, but I would be curious to find out if when she first enrolled she was "geeked" to learn as they say. If it was a coercion from the initial enrollment, you're right.

    However, if she had one bad experience, and now feels defeated, scared, or self-conscience, I think the OP should inquire about another instructor (sometimes a fresh start helps) or have her read about other people's struggles so she knows it is not just her.

    it is not uncommon for someone to think after a big mistake that they CAN'T do it, when we all know that isn't the truth at all. Otherwise, half the people on this forum with mask removal issues would never have continued.
    No one has ever retold valiant stories of logic - for all good stories are driven by emotion and the spirit.

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